Sometimes, our attitude is all that stops us from achieving whatever it is that we are attempting. According to psychology.account.com,
Psychologists define attitudes as a learned tendency to evaluate things in a certain way.
The very successful recognise that attitude matters. On the website success.com, Keith Harrell, in an article entitled ‘Why Your Attitude Is Everything,’ says
One of the most important steps you can take toward achieving your greatest potential in life is to learn to monitor your attitude and its impact on your work performance, relationships and everyone around you.
He goes on to say that he begins workshops by asking people what attitude they brought to the meeting. I am well aware that sometimes I go to meetings expecting it to be dull. I am, by nature, an optimist but I guess that means that I am more likely to be more frequently disappointed than the cynic.
It is quite a skill to recognise our attitudes, because it is not something that we are necessarily taught to do. When I am attending any meeting or social gathering, I need to learn to ask myself what my attitude is to it. Keeping a journal used to help me with this but the busier I get, the less likely I am to keep a journal and the more likely I am to become unaware of my attitude.
Kahil Gibran once said,
Your living is determined not so much by what life brings to you as by the attitude you bring to life: not so much by what happens to you as by the way your mind looks at what happens.
Every site that I have looked at says the same thing: attitude is a choice. Even as I write this I can think about situations where my attitude was negative and I could have chosen to be more positive.
It’s easy to get drawn into negative attitudes and criticism but much harder to swim against the tide and decide to take a positive view. Maybe part of that is our fear of failure or fear of being disappointed. Maybe we think that if we expect the worst then things can only be better than we expect. What that doesn’t take into account is that we are spreading the negativity and cynicism to those around us. I find it wearing when people continually complain at me.
We all like praise, and I must admit that I much prefer being around upbeat, positive people. Perhaps we can use this season of goodwill to spread a bit more of it. It also entails ignoring the negative people, and if possible, walking away. Ah well, I think that I’d better get back to journaling.