How to Develop Patience

Our world moves at a fast pace and we expect to get what we want, when we want it, which inevitably leads to anxiety and stress. We seem to have lost the art of patience, which, according to the oxforddictionaries.com is

The capacity to accept or tolerate delay, problems, or suffering without becoming annoyed or anxious.

Before we can begin to develop patience, we need to learn how to recognise our growing impatience before it gets a hold. Some of the symptoms are:-
Tension in the muscles; shallow, quick breathing; restless limbs; anxiety; irritability and making hasty decisions/rushing.

An important lesson to learn is that we cannot always be in control, or expect our life to stay permanently comfortable.
Once we recognise the symptoms, we can begin to develop a strategy to increase our patience.

Firstly, we need to slow down; leave plenty of time to get to places. By practicing Mindfulness we can learn to live in the moment and stop fretting about the future.

It can help to focus on being patient for a day. According to Jane Bolton, Psy.D., M.F.T. in Psychology Today, we need to understand the addictive nature of anger, irritation and outrage. When we think in terms of anger as an addiction, there seems to be a benefit to learning to cope with it one day at a time and thereby to break the addiction.

We are used to instant gratification in our culture, and intentionally delaying gratification will help us to get used to the idea of waiting and therefore help to increase our patience.

Some of us are so busy that anything that breaks into our daily schedule increases our irritation and frustration. For some people it may help to intentionally break into the schedule.

Joyce Meyer, quoted on brainyquote.com says that

Patience is not simply the ability to wait – it’s how we behave while we’re waiting.