We all get frustrated when things don’t turn out how we hope, or when our needs are not met. Sometimes others get in the way of us fulfilling the things we planned and hope for. Often we limit ourselves and put barriers in our own way.
If we don’t pay attention to the frustration it can lead to cynicism, low self-esteem, or even anxiety or depression. When we are frustrated we have a tendency to become negative in our thinking about ourselves, others, and the situation in which we find ourselves.
The website eruptingmind.com says,
The feeling of frustration comes as a result of not being able to satisfy your own needs, wants or desires through your own actions and efforts.
When we first recognise that what we are feeling is frustration, we need to ask ourselves what it is about the situation that is making us feel frustrated. We also need to ask ourselves how we can turn this situation to our advantage even though the outcomes are not necessarily what we would have chosen. We need to be able to take a step back from the situation and see it from a different perspective.
It is especially difficult to cope with the frustration if the situation is part of a dream that we are pursuing, but it is often by overcoming frustrations and obstacles that we meet along the way that we gain the strength and determination to persevere in the pursuit of our dream.
As a novelist, an essential part of the character building of the hero is his or her overcoming of obstacles to achieve his or her objective. Life doesn’t always allow us to win, but learning to overcome obstacles is a valuable lesson in itself.
Think about what you could do to get yourself back on track. If you can, take some time out to reflect or get advice, but most of all, don’t beat yourself up. Recognise when you are in a situation that you cannot change and consider whether there is another way to achieve your goal.
Talk about it to someone you trust, they will also be able to tell you whether or not your response is inordinate. If no-one is available, write it in a journal, or just a piece of paper – anything to acknowledge the feelings.
Bo Bennett once said,
Frustration, although quite painful at times, is a very positive and essential part of success.