All too often we think that we will find happiness by position, promotion, possessions, or perfect houses and families, but when we get one thing, we want more. This turns out to be what the Song of Solomon in the Bible calls, ‘Chasing the Wind’, (which is also the title of my first novel).
Emma Seppälä PhD on the website, Psychology Today calls compassion,
The best kept secret to happiness and health.
She tells us that
A brain-imaging study headed by neuroscientist Jordan Grafman showed that the brains ‘pleasure centres’ are just as active when we see someone giving money to charity as when we receive money ourselves.
Compassion takes our focus off ourselves. When we focus on ourselves it is easy to become more anxious and depressed but by focussing on someone else’s need, our own seems to decrease.
Emma Seppälä also tells us that compassion is good for our health. She cites a study by Steve Cole and Barbara Fredrickson that evaluated inflammation at the cellular level in people who described themselves as ‘Very Happy.’ Low levels of inflammation were only found among those who were happy because they lived a life of purpose or meaning.
The Dalai Lama once said,
If you want others to be happy,
If you want to be happy,