Be Happy Anyway.

I love that line from Mother Teresa’s ‘Do it anyway’ words.

If you find serenity and happiness, some may be jealous – Be happy anyway.

I know that it is easier said than done, but it is a great gift to be able to be happy when others are intentionally trying to bring you down and make you as miserable as they are.

It is often said that if you choose to be happy then no-one can take that away from you. I think in a way that is true, but there are people who will bully, abuse position to put down, intimidate etc to wear another person down. I’ve met those in some areas of my life. I’m fortunate that in my current work and home life there are none of those people – those closest to me want only what is best for me. That is a lovely place to be in, but it wasn’t always that way. I now steer clear of those who have, at some stage in my life, made every effort to bring me down, and even when times are tough and things go wrong life is not as miserable.

I think that for some people, just the sight of someone who is happy and kind makes them feel miserable. It’s not a feeling that I understand but it does seem that way for some. I pity them – especially when they are in positions of power. Somehow they must feel very insecure and have low self-esteem in order to feel that way.

It doesn’t help to pretend that it isn’t happening, or indeed that it doesn’t hurt because then any anger that we feel will surface later at an inappropriate time or to an inordinate level.

We shouldn’t ignore the feelings, but then again neither should we dwell on them. The negative feelings toward us are not really personal; they say something about the person who is driven to make another person unhappy. Forgive them, and waste no more time being miserable. If they do it again, forgive them again – after all, we certainly don’t want to end up as miserable and unkind as they are